“You helped me clear out the cobwebs — the notions we have in society about who a man should be, not who you really are. Once those were out of the way, I lightened up. I opened up and started to flirt more, the way I like to, which is more playful (not what I thought of as traditionally ‘masculine’). A few months later, I met the love of my life. We got married last year and we’re really happy.” – F.Z., 35, male

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