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Ever wondered whether you can have a passionate marriage even if the beginning was rocky? Ever wanted to know what powerful, sexy women really want from their partners? Here, Anna Rova shares her experience of moving from a less-than-stellar first sexual experience with a man, to saying YES to marrying him a year later. How does that work!? The answer is pretty great ("Oh, he definitely didn't have game when we met."). We also cover what it means for strong, successful women to "do the work," stories about men, the role of dating & relationships in the modern world, and the future of fully awake, alive partnerships.
Thank you for sharing your story. I was able to gain a little insight regarding some parts of my situation. However, my story is kind of opposite. My husband and I had great sex in the beginning, We had a great friendship. We had fun times together and could talk for hours about anything….but once he “had me”, I began to feel as though he made little to no effort in helping me to feel basic needs of safety and security. I felt as though we were on completely different levels. It was as if sex was his priority and once he had found the one who fulfilled that need for him, he could not or would not acknowledge that I needed anything more from him. We went through several tragic events in our family, and even lost our home and our family was distanced in the process. He was spiritually immature and simple minded. He doesnt have ambition and just takes like as it comes, without fighting for anything. I am a survivor and have always done whatever I had to in order to fight when battles come. I quickly felt alone in my daily struggles and burdens of life. 7 years later, and we are completely disconnected on almost every level. Ive lost respe t for him and lost interest. I am turned off and resentful when he touches me. Ive even taken a travel position and stay gone as much as possible. He would do anything for me, now that he partly understands why I have given up on our relationship, and begs me to not leave him. But i feel its too late. I dont know how to get the feelings back. I feel so guilty because he is so heartbroken, so its hard to let go and move on. But i just dont feel like staying in this stagnant place is helping anything, but actually keeping either of us from growing. I do love him. But i feel as though we are just a team… or friends who are there to work together to help when our children need help. But together alone, we are distant, on a different level, and constantly in our own worlds. Im so confused and dont know if I should at least try therapy before walking away or if I should just let go and move on so we both can find peace and happiness.